Saturday, July 01, 2006
Baby News
We've had news recently of two new pregnancies within our families.
First, I heard from my favorite brother (to be referred to as Cole). His wife (to be referred to as Madeline) is pregnant with their second child, due to be born in mid-February 2007. They're hoping for a girl because they already have a little boy (to be referred to as Aiden). Aiden is two years old.
Just tonight, we received a call from Oronzo's brother, Christian. His wife, Larissa, is also pregnant with their second child, due to be born at the end of February 2007. They're hoping for a boy because they already have a daughter, Rebecca, who just turned one year old in May.
After hearing the good news from Christian and Larissa, I was telling Oronzo that it's such a good feeling to be able to be truly happy for both Cole and Christian and their families.
Let me explain. Before we were matched and before we adopted Snuggle Bug, I must admit that whenever I got a call from family or friends letting me know that they were expecting, I tried really hard to be happy for them, and I succeeded to an extent, but that happiness was always tinged with a sadness and a touch of envy. That attempt at happiness for others also led to agonising self doubt. I often questioned, Will it ever be our turn? Will we ever become parents too?
The answer to those questions was "Yes!" Our turn came and we became parents to the most wonderful baby boy and we couldn't be happier.
Now, as parents ourselves, I can be most sincere in my well wishes for those close to us who are becoming pregnant and expanding their families. What a wonderful feeling! No sadness, no envy, only joy!
Yes, we hope to adopt again and possibly even again after that. But if for some reason a second child isn't meant to be for our family, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I'm already blessed to be the mommy to a bright, beautiful little boy and I'm so very thankful!
So go ahead, tell me you're pregnant or adopting and I'll tell you how happy I am for you, and mean it!
14 Comments:
Good wishes to both sets of parents to be!!
What a lovely photo of the babies! And congratulations, Auntie! Isn't it wonderful to share in other's joy!
Congratulations on the upcoming births in the family:-) I can understand how you felt before you adopted Snuggle Bug whenever you'd hear of someone being pregnant...I would have felt the same way. So happy it all turned out for you and I know how much you love that little boy!! He's very lucky to have you and Oronzo as his parents:-)
awww the growth of families is awesome!!!
I am glad you can appreciate it now, I can totally relate for different reasons!
Great news for both families. It will be fun for you little Snuggle Bug to have more cousins to play with, too!
I'm still on the wrong side of that happiness fence after 8 years of secondary infertility. Congrats on making it to the other side. And thanks for publishing in a larger forum like All Stars the pain that most people don't know exists.
must admit that whenever I got a call from family or friends letting me know that they were expecting, I tried really hard to be happy for them, and I succeeded to an extent, but that happiness was always tinged with a sadness and a touch of envy. That attempt at happiness for others also led to agonising self doubt. I often questioned, Will it ever be our turn? Will we ever become parents too?
I'm not in the right place right now to be happy for anyone. I admit that. And I'm working on it. Especially people due in February 2007. It just hurts. Too much.
Congrats OW..its fun being an Aunt isnt it? I am glad you are able to be happy for people who are pregnant, but I understand when you couldnt be, I think its a normal thing when you want something so much and it seems as though everybody but you is getting a baby. I am so glad you have Snugglebug...and I hope you get another baby soon, you and Oronzo are truly great parents...any baby placed with you two would be a very fortunate baby!
Your story is like the light at the end of the tunnel. I love reading your posts and hearing stories of your family and knowing that people can and do make it through adoption and beyond.
I still struggle with pregnancy announcements, and I look forward to a day when I can be really, truly, sincerely happy for expecting friends/family.
Anyway thanks again for sharing your story...
Congratulations! What blessings for all of you!
I have to be honest that during our adoption wait, even as we already had ds at home, some (but not all) pregnancy announcements caused me to struggle. Now that I. is home, and now that I know adoption can work, I can feel differently.
But maternity stores on the wrong day just might always make me cry.
Congrats to your family! Lots of cousins for Snuggle Bug!
While I can't truly understand what you mean, having never been thru it, I can imagine... I'm sure that my imagination can't do justice to the pain of infertility. I'm so happy for you, that you can find happiness in other people's joy again.
Congrats to your brother and BIL!
Sorry I can't say that I have any pregnancy news to share!
There MUST be something in the water!! =) I, too, am expecting in February! How exciting for everyone. Congratulations Auntie!
It is nice to be in a place where you can be happy for others without making it more difficult for yourself. It's great that you've come to that place -- it's hard to know. In a different way, I know it completely.
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