Monday, February 26, 2007
Wavering
As we prep our house to prepare for putting it on the market, I find myself wavering in our decision to move. Is this normal?

This is the first house I've ever purchased and I love it. I don't want to leave it or the neighborhood we live in.

I've put off buying moving boxes and packing because I can't help myself, I keep changing my mind as to what I want us to do.

We've told most of our family and some of our friends of our decision. Everyone has been very supportive, even the family and friends here where we are now that will have to say goodbye to us in 3 weeks.

Why am I wavering in my decision?

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6:42 AM
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At 6:55 AM, Blogger Carrie! :o) said...

(((Hugs))) ~ Awww, That feeling is natural! Being a military family, we move so very often. Going to a new place and starting over again is going to cause some flip flopping in your thoughts. Once you get moved, settled in and life starts back again, you'll be refreshed in a new way! Saying goodbye is so hard!! My heart goes out to you!

 
At 7:25 AM, Blogger Dawn said...

Change is HARD. We moved about a year and a half ago and it was a decision much less fraught than what you're going through (we moved just ten minutes away!) and the positives were much more clear and we STILL wavered. It's hard to take a chance no matter how positive the signs are that the chance is a smart one to take. Hang in there!

 
At 7:46 AM, Anonymous chelle said...

Three Weeks?!?!?!??!
Wow! No wonder you are anxious! That does not give you a lot of time to get used to the idea.

Change is really hard but it can be very refreshing and wonderful too. I always get really sad right before we move and even once we arrive in the new location. Then we settle in and start living and it feels good.

 
At 8:19 AM, Blogger Tracey said...

Ditto to above. We moved out of our first house and I nearly lost it when I realized that I had to leave behind the wall with Justin and Evan's growth lines (FYI, do it on a BOARD or something cuz that will just break your heart). It will get easier though. Good luck!

 
At 8:53 AM, Blogger Michelle said...

I think it's normal to waver when you had such a big decision to make that is going to impact so many areas of your life. You'll probably be questioning yourself the whole time, "did I make the right decision?" - not that it makes it any easier, but it is perfectly normal. You have a big adjustment coming up - moving to a different state and selling your home is huge! Hang in there! Sending you hugs!

 
At 10:57 AM, Blogger Jill said...

It's totally normal. This is a huge decision on so many levels for you guys, I think your reaction is prefectly rational. Once you start looking for new places and new neighborhoods, maybe things will seem more positive!

p.s. Did you see this post from Rocks in my Dryer -- made me think of you: http://rocksinmydryer.typepad.com/shannon/2007/02/if_any_of_you_a.html

 
At 12:43 PM, Blogger Jen said...

Been away from blogging and just now catching up. It will be fine. I'm going through the same thing...teetering with the fact someone else will live here and where will I go? Pray that is what I'm doing. I havent been myself lately since the selling thing has been going on...stressed is more like it. Good Luck friend.

 
At 12:53 PM, Blogger Jill said...

I agree with the other posters. It is very common to have these thoughts, especially since it was such a big decision for you all to make.

You will be fine! Sending you tons of hugs!

 
At 6:10 PM, Blogger Sgt and Mrs Hub said...

Because it's HARD to move- you have a lot invested in the place where you are right now. It is really tough. I will pray that God would overwhelm you with His faithfulness every step of your way. Keep in mind it is important to mourn what you are leaving. Just remember that joy will come again.

-Andrea

 
At 6:22 PM, Blogger Kathleen Marie said...

Oh my... I can certainly understand where you are coming from. It took us two years to decided to leave our home in Nebraska and move to South Dakota (8 hours away). We prayed and prayed and talked and prayed.

For us it was a good decision and was also a ministry decision and God blessed us financially as well. But, we left our home of 19 years, the place where the kids were born and raised. We left our church, Grandparents, family, friends, etc...

It is not easy but for us it was the right decision in the long run. We have since made new friends, have a new church, etc...

We had a HUGE auction, rummage sale, etc... We watched memories being sold but it is amazing how God has replaced so much and given us more amazing memories.

I cried plenty while packing...and it is normal to have many conflicting feelings.

Moving is right up there with marriage, divorce, funerals, etc... but it is also an exciting time, a time for new experiences, a new adventure...

I will continue to pray for you. I pray God give you and Oronzo inner peace but know that outwardly things will be a bit chaotic for awhile.

Hugs to you!

 
At 7:20 PM, Blogger cityfarmer said...

When in doubt chicken out!!!

 
At 8:03 PM, Blogger Tanya said...

This is completely normal. When we moved in January I felt this way at first, even though we were moving back "home". We didn't have any family in Seattle so it was probably a bit easier than what you are experiencing BUT we did leave many dear friends.

Just remember that you'll be able to go back and visit :)

 
At 8:28 AM, Blogger Susie said...

Praying for you. I am going through trying to sell my home at the moment too. It is hard, but I will pray that you have a peace about it all.

 
At 8:49 AM, Blogger ~Melissa~ said...

3 weeks is a short time for such big changes - I can understand why you are wavering. Big changes are scary, and saying goodbye to friends is so hard. You will adjust and feel better about your decision as you get more settled in your new home.

 
At 11:26 AM, Blogger DeAnna said...

I personally don't handle making any big decisions well. As soon as the decision is made I start wondering if we made the right one. :) It is so hard to move from what you've known as home for a while, but its also exciting to think about all the new things you'll get to experience and the new friends you'll get to meet in a new place. I hope everything goes well for you guys!!

 
At 2:08 PM, Blogger Blessed Assurances said...

I am sending you a big ole hug via blogland...hang in there! It sounds a like God has a great plan for you-have faith and don't be scared, it will all workout and in a few months you will be so glad you made this leap of faith!

 
At 5:57 PM, Blogger AMH said...

I think it is very normal to second guess yourselves. You're taking a big step. At the same time, remember that most things in life are reversible, to some degree! You can always move back.

Hang in there, I think much excitement awaits...

 
At 6:06 PM, Blogger KELLY said...

Hi Overwhelmed,

I read your blog often and love all your great recipes.

Moving is hard. Someday, we'd like to build a bigger home, but for now I couldn't be happier in our little "first house".

 
At 6:30 PM, Blogger Stacey said...

Thanks for talking today. It really made me feel great about everything going on.

I will be praying for your move!

 
At 7:19 PM, Blogger Tricia said...

What you are feeling is completely natural but know that many are praying for you!

 
At 7:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is totally normal. We lived in our apartment for 3 extra months because I didn't want to move. We just bought a bigger house 3 blocks from our old one 2 months ago and still haven't moved in. I know this is hard, but take the leap of faith...you'll be surprised how good you'll feel once it's done.

 
At 4:18 AM, Blogger Trisha said...

Change is hard especially when it comes at you fast. You know really change is like a new pair of shoes. At first they might hurt your feet or rub your heels and leave blisters but wear them a few time and when they are all nice and broken in you just might find they are your favorite pair. Give yourself time. You are all going to be just fine.

 
At 4:05 PM, Blogger A Special Family said...

I too am a decision waver...I think especially when I have to make a decision in a hurry. Sometimes I will then give myself longer, and it is the same decision I come to...
Thinking of you, and hoping you have an easy move.

 
At 4:55 PM, Blogger Tori said...

Change is often very difficult. It's totally understandable why you are having a little trouble with the change. Hang in there, it'll all come together.
How exciting to have new possibilities and chances infront of you. Good luck!!

 

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