Monday, June 11, 2007
This week is going to suck!
In exactly 2 hours, Oronzo will be dropping Snuggle Bug off for his first full day of daycare. It's going to be brutal on all of us!Last Thursday Oronzo took Snuggle Bug into the daycare and, for the first time, dropped him off for a trail run of a couple of hours. Snuggle Bug sobbed when he figured out Ornozo was leaving. Oronzo said he felt as though his heart was being ripped out of his chest. We learned that Snuggle Bug cried off and on the entire 2 hours there. We felt horrible about it!
Friday Oronzo took him again for another short drop off. This time, Snuggle Bug began sobbing the minute they pulled into the daycare parking lot. He started screaming as Oronzo walked in with him and Oronzo had to literally peel Snuggle Bug off of him to hand him over to the teacher so that he could leave. Oronzo called me from his car on the way out, near tears himself, telling me he's not sure this job is worth what we're putting Snuggle Bug through. He said he felt like a failure as a father! Although my heart was breaking, I encouraged Oronozo to hang in there and give it a bit of time to see if eventually Snuggle Bug was able to adjust and enjoy himself.
I called the daycare center on Friday about an hour after Oronzo dropped Snuggle Bug off. I spoke with the director and learned that he had been crying off and on but the class did a painting project and that captured his attention so he stopped crying to participate. She told me at that very moment he was sitting on the floor playing with another boy and building blocks and he wasn't crying. That made me feel a little better.
When Oronzo arrived to pick Oronzo up on Friday, he looked in the window and watched for about 5 minutes as Snuggle Bug played with containers of water that the teacher had set out for the kids. He wasn't crying and seemed to be doing okay. When he noticed Oronzo in the window, he about bowled over the other kids in his efforts to throw himself in Oronzo's arms as quickly as possible.
Today...well I fully expect today to be ugly. Oronzo will be starting a new job that he's not sure he should be doing anymore, since this transition to daycare is proving to be so difficult to his family.
Oronzo will be dropping Snuggle Bug off at 7 a.m. and I'll be picking him up at 2:30 p.m. I pray with all my heart that Snuggle Bug will survive an entire day there without us. I pray that the teacher will follow my list of "Snuggle Bug instructions" that I typed out and left to be posted in his classroom. I'm sure they think I'm a crazy, overprotective Mama to have made a list, but I don't care. I want them to know his preferences (i.e. he must have his blanket, pillow, and bunny at naptime or he'll flip out and he needs sunscreen and a hat each time he goes outside to play because he burns easily).Anyway, thank you all for your supportive comments and prayers last week. I can't tell you how much I appreciated each and every one. I've been so stressed out about all of this that it brings tears to my eyes just thinking about what we're putting our baby through.
It's only temporary. It's only temporary. It's only temporary.
Please keep us in your prayers! We desperately need them this week.
P.S. To the ladies who participated in last Friday's Favorite Ingredients Friday recipe exchange, I was spending every precious moment with Snuggle Bug this past weekend so I haven't had the time yet to look at all your recipes. I will try to get that done one night this week. Thanks so much for your participation!
Labels: daycare, faith, family, Oronzo, Snuggle Bug
14 Comments:
Praying for all three of you.
You are on my heart. I will be praying all day today as the LORD brings you to mind. I truly wish I were closer & someone IRL for you & I would watch that sweet, sweet boy.
Recipe, schmecipe--hang out and snuggle the little Bug as much as you can.
With prayer,
Julie
Praying for all of you today!
Awwww... I know your pain. It WILL Work out. And they don't think you're crazy, cuz ALL kids have specific needs and preferences. You may find that his will change after being in daycare. Seeing that other kids do or don't need all their lovies or having his teacher forget one day and him realizing it's ok, may surprise him.
I remember after Justin started eating lunch at school, he would come home and say he'd tried something new, and I'd be all "WHAT?! You never tried that for ME!" and it was really about doing things on his own that made the difference.
SB will be ok, it's YOU guys that will suffer the most. Wondering if this is really for the best, wondering if you're doing the right thing... you'll figure it out. It's ok. But go ahead and be sad, because it's a part of parenting!
I understand that pain that you and Oronzo are going through. It is so hard to see your child cry, and to know that they may be happier with you. This is a hard transition for Snuggle Bug because he is used to having you or Oronzo around at all times. Once he understands that you will always be back to get him...he will be fine. It is good, and healthy for a child to spend some time away from his parents. You all will benefit from this, but it is hard while you are going through it. I hope and pray that the adjustment won't take to long. And yes...it is only temporary. I will be thinking about you guys all week!
Oh my I feel for you guys! Your SB is so very lucky to have the 2 of you as parents the love just radiates off of every word you have posted of him.
You are in my thoughts and I will send tons of "good transition vibes" your way.
(((hugs))) Praying that things start to go better for all of you.
Snuggle Bug is much more important than any recipes. ;)
Oh, my friend, my heart goes out to you. Please continue to keep us updated on the daycare situation. I'm praying that its an easier transition that you could possibly hope for! I'm thinking of you!
Oh, I will definitely be praying for your family. Your little one sounds like mine - NO CHANGE ALLOWED! So hopefully he will see that this is fun, and, even though it seems like a hugely long timeframe now, it is a short time in the scheme of things to benefit your family greatly!
(I say this after waiting 8 months to sell our home so we could live a reasonable amount of time away from my husband's new jobs - 6.26 miles instead of 80.)
But, even though I knew God was doing something really good in our lives, the time sucked, and I know this does too.
I am so sorry. Hang in there.
I remember the first time we did what you are doing today.
It's only temporary :)
God love ya!
The list was a great idea! If his teachers are good then not only will they follow the list, they are grateful that you took the time to tell them more about Snuggle Bug, his needs and preferences.
I work in a daycare, and I can guarantee you he will be fine. He'll cry for a day on and off and he might cry at drop off for a week, but then he'll be fine.
Just be prepared for the runny nose he might get after being exposed to a new set of germs and of course for the small changes he may have with his personality. Kids generally become more laid back and less shy.
Also, it was a good idea to send a note stating he must have sunscreen on. Most daycares can't do this without a note from a parent (bug spray can't be applied either, or diaper rash cream).
Best of luck you are doing the best thing for your family right now. Will it be hard for a while? Of course, all changes are hard. Will it be worth it? Of course.
Just checking in with you to see how your day went. I hope snuggle bug had a good day at school.
Just read soem of your blog. Hope today went better than you all expected. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!
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