Friday, February 27, 2009
Disturbing message from Baby Bug's mom! *Updated*
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Now then, at 8:30 AM this morning, I received a call on my cell phone.   I was still sleeping because I had been up once or twice with Snuggle Bug who had bad dreams and I didn't recognize the number on my cell phone so I let it go to voicemail.  I really wish I would've taken that call!

An hour later, when I listened to my voicemail message, I was surprised to hear Baby Bug's mom leaving the message.  I had planned on calling her parents today to tell them we had returned and to see if we could arrange a play date with the kids this week.   

Baby Bug's mom called not to ask if we were home yet or to set up a play date.  She called to give me a new phone number.  The rest of her message was a bit disturbing.

She told me that there had been some drastic changes since we had left, besides the new number, and asked me to call her.  She said she could use a friend.

I immediately called her back, frantic with worry about Baby Bug and her family!  She didn't answer.  I got her voicemail.  Interestingly, the voice mail greeting on the phone was only for her, not her and Baby Bug's dad.  I left her a message saying we're back in town, I'm happy to listen and I'm willing to offer help in any way that I can.  I asked her to please call me back.

So, did she and Baby Bug's dad get into a fight and separate?  Did one of them return to their troubled past way of life?  Did CPS step in and take the kids (Baby Bug and her little brother) while we were gone?  I pray that this did NOT happen!  I don't want Baby Bug back in the system and certainly not with another foster family.  If she is in the system again, I will be calling everyone I know associated with her past case to insist that she be transferred back to our home.  We'll take her baby brother too if they let us!

I'm jumping to conclusions.  There's no reason to believe that CPS has taken the kids away from them.  They've been well cared for since returning home, I've seen it with my own two eyes.  

Ugh, I wish I could talk to Baby Bug's mom and find out what's going on!  I will be keeping my phone close too me all day!

Update:

Okay, so I finally got a call back from Baby Bug's mom in the early afternoon.  The kids are fine.  They're not in CPS custody.  Thank goodness for that!

What it boils down to is that Baby Bug's parents are struggling in their relationship right now and Baby Bug's mom feared that they'd be parting ways soon.  She's not sure how things will turn out but she really just needed someone she could trust to talk to.  I offered my moral support and told her if she and the kids need anything just to let us know.  Baby Bug's maternal grandparents have also made it clear that if worse comes to worse, they want Baby Bug's mom and the kids to move in with them, so they'll have family to stay with.  That's comforting.

Time will tell.  For now, all I can do is be encouraging and keep in contact with them so that I can keep tabs on how Baby Bug is doing (and her baby brother too).

As for a commenter's question as to whether or not CPS would call us if they took Baby Bug back into care, that's debatable.  We've made it very clear that we'd like to be called, but there's no guarantee that the CPS worker that would pull the kids from the home would even look at the previous case file on Baby Bug before placing her and her brother in a foster home.  We hope they would but there are no guarantees.  I hope it never comes to that.

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11 Comments:
At 11:20 AM, Blogger Carey said...

Praying for you today. Let us know what happens.

 
At 12:53 PM, Blogger lightshines said...

Praying. Let us know.

 
At 2:26 PM, Blogger Dawnelle said...

oh, ugh. Hope you get news soon and that there's just a simple reason for all the changes. Keep us posted. Boy, I do hope they aren't in care again w/ another family- they certainly would call you first, wouldn't they??

 
At 3:32 PM, Blogger Sally said...

Ugh, I hate when I choose not to answer but wish I had. I hope you hear back from her pronto. Praying for you in the meantime - for peace and for safety for Baby Bug.

 
At 4:50 PM, Blogger Amy said...

I'm praying, too. Keep us posted.

 
At 10:23 PM, Blogger Dawnelle said...

well, that's somewhat of a relief. Thanks for updating. And hey, we can only take 2 kids, too- 5 carseats total but we have 3 kids of our own. So we're in the same situation as you.

 
At 10:54 PM, Blogger Michelle B. said...

I am so happy to hear that the babys are well. Glad to hear that it was never about there safety

 
At 5:29 AM, Blogger heidi @ ggip said...

Wow, I can imagine how scary that was! I'm glad that things turned out to be a bit better than you imagined.

 
At 1:23 PM, Blogger Kellie said...

I'm so glad Baby Bug's mom has you to talk to and confide in, and that the kids are okay. I know you must have been scared to death there for a while.

 
At 12:50 PM, OpenID pinkexplosion said...

My first comment was eaten.
Since they received assistance from the state in getting Baby Bug back are they eligible for counseling? No marriage is perfect! Maybe there is someone that can help them for free?

We will keep them in our prayers.

 
At 1:35 PM, Blogger Barb said...

Unbelievable that they would place the baby with complete strangers when all they have to do is take five minutes to read the case file and see that the baby knows you and would be 100% better off with you.

No wonder the system is such a mess. I sincerely hope it doesn't come to that for Baby Bug.

 

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